Good is Enough

A few years ago, my aunt posted about a blog she had found.  I tried to find it, but no such luck.  The post discussed the expectation of women in today's world.  From facebook to pintrest to blogs (yes I do agree) we have so many things we feel we should be.
I came across this post last fall I when I went to school full time, I started 1 week before I gave birth to my second child.  I took 1 week off from classes and only took off 7 weeks from work.  By week 7 I was half way though the semester, taking 15 credit hours, nursing and caring for a brand new baby and my beautiful 5 yr old, trying to be a wife, and working 40 hours a week.  I was EXHAUSTED!!
Come December, I was still holding strong, but gratefully with a responsible and caring husband he said "NEVER AGAIN".


Since this time I have reflected alot about who we are as women. As a woman I feel that many of us have an unreal expectation of ourselves.  I also have this assumption due to a few posts from others.

I will admit that in my years I have learned that Women are just sometimes CRUEL!!! and beyond that there is alot of pressure we put on each other.  I remember a while back, I was dolling myself up to just go somewhere simple (it is very rare for me to wear makeup, so it was a change) he asked why I was doing it.  I said "to look nice for you" he smiled.  What i didn't quite understand at the time was, I did not need to doll myself up for him, he doesn't mind but it is not a necessity. However I see so many women obsessed with looking perfect, because of who might see them.

As my son has started school I have noticed it even more, I tried for a few days to have the perfect packed lunches, but quickly realized it was more then I could handle right now, as long as he had lunch he was good.

 

I agree they are super fun and cool, but for me, too much effort that really doesn't change the world for my son.

My sister shared a blog with me.  It talks about what I have posted here, "mommy wars"  " I think deep down many of us are just a little bit afraid that someone else is doing a better job at this whole thing than we are."

I also have been feeling quite overwhelmed with putting our house on the market so I decided, to do alittle blog stocking and found alittle bit older post.

"a more experienced Mom from church gave me these comforting words and I’ve clung to them ever since.  “It was God who gave you only so many hours in a day.  Who are you to expect more out of yourself than God does?”

Last night when I got home, I knew the house needed alot more work before our open house today.  I picked up my boys, and got home.  As I was driving home I was putting a to do list into play.  I picked up my son, and he wanted to go get a drink.  Since we are keeping to the budget I told him no, but we decided we could do something else fun insteed.  I informed him that he had homework to do as well.
DADDY TO THE RESCUE! (my sweet hubby is VERY VERY VERY sick) but he sat by my little man to help him get his work done. 

When I was finishing up vacuuming at bedtime, my son really wanted to pull out his train track, I told him no, and he got upset and hid.  I sat on the floor had him come and sit on my lap.  I have been so overwhelmed with so many things right now, it was wonderful to sit down and take a moment to talk with my son!
Those sweet moments make it all worth while and I know that no matter what, HE is why i do it all, and nothing else matters.